Calling him Platonic love or friendship – deep, spiritual – is not the same thing? How many times have I asked me. My name is Giulia C., 56 years old, married with children, as a job I am anesthesiologist, I work with a little more “older” doctor than me, also married, father. We did interventions for years together, ignoring ourselves, then one day she started talking and … I fell in love, I try passion. He has always tried to “manage the situation”, however not renouncing our relationship, of friendship. At a certain point the crossroads: either to welcome his “conditions” (the choice of a man who, while wishing, defends his integrity and marriage without doing heads), or refusing the friendship offered (in some ways too heavy for me) and leave. But I feel connection, attraction, sympathy, we help ourselves, there is a desire to communicate. I wouldn’t want to give up all this. I think that if one loves, he must still express himself, beyond the space he finds or that he can give, if not nothing. A friend speaks of “Platonic love”, the ancients practiced it by understanding it, today it is considered only a source of frustrations. But maybe it is no longer harmful to let go of a feeling that still gives you and a lot? Of course, we will hardly make love – among other things, I made another meeting that attracts me, but it would be only physical, I know, while this …; If you pass the passionate aspect, everything else, and it is not a little, you can, it should be preserved, like a little great treasure. However, I thank this man who at the age I have still made me fall in love, among the most wonderful (and dangerous) things that can happen to us … it will hardly be able to fall me back. I would like to have his opinion.
Giulia C.
Dear Giulia, instead it seems unlikely to me that it does not reappear them since it already has an interest (as of a different nature) for another man again. On the other hand, I imagine that yours is such an adrenaline job (I don’t dare imagine what it is to handle lives every day) that it is easily eroticized.
In any case, she has been making a nice contribution to the theme on the plate for days and that it is passionate about readers: of course it can and must (if you believe it) remain friend of her missed lover. She herself says that your relationship, even if relegated to Platonic, makes her live better. So I don’t need mine: she already has the answer.