Dear Valeria, we are a colorful family, assembled in a curious way. This is the case, perhaps he also knows about joy, instead we are all, some more who less, a lump of complexes and insecurity. My father had five children with three different wives. We have all grown up with our mothers, he has always worked a lot, he has an important construction company and basically he is a man of the past who would never have dealt with baby food, diapers, schools: children, in short. The fact is that for some years now we have all been working in Dad’s company. Everyone arrived with his time, after his studies, the individual paths and especially after trying to dispose of the grudge that the situation in the family made us grow inside for a long time. We have not frequented throughout our childhood and now we find ourselves working together, each with their own competence, but coexistence is not easy. Also because, however adults, we are still all looking for the affection and preference of this cumbersome father who has been absent for most of our lives. And I often have the temptation to parade from this perennial race and to leave the company.
Lavinia
Dear Lavinia, I don’t see why it should be the only one to take off from his place. I understand well, and do not imagine how much, the feeling that feeds the temptation to leave, but rationally I don’t consider it an option. It would not be right and certainly would not heal her from the desire for father that all of you, she and her brothers, still preserved by adults. In the long run he would feel more on the margins than raised. And he would regret not having remained to take what is his, economically but above all emotionally. It is his chance, it is of all of you, to start a relationship with your father who could tell you completely: one to stop demonizing or one to throw down from the pedestal. And the fact that all five have suffered the same absence and you have inflated from the same grudge, makes me think that, perhaps, you could stop making war on each other could instead start being a colorful family in the cheerful sense of the term.
Life is long (but also very short) and makes a lot of laps, Lavina. And the surprising thing is that we are not forced to remain forever in the same script. So far it has gone like this, but from now on it can be a whole other story.