Dear Valeria, I am a married woman with children. I have a bad marriage behind me, from which my first daughter was born, and a second relationship, which is my current one, which has given me joy and comfort again (as well as two other children) but which a few years ago ended crashed in the face of a “betrayal” that was not a trivial affair but lasted three years, closed only because it was discovered by my current partner. He forgave me but I’m confused. Is there something wrong with me? Maybe I get bored too quickly? Or maybe I can’t find partners who don’t make me bored?
Dear reader, whether there is something wrong with you I am not able to determine, nor is it up to me to do so. What I can tell you is that, once you enter the adult world, boredom in relationships becomes a rather weak alibi. We should try to keep relationships going despite the tedium which, as you know, inevitably sets in in a more or less tolerable way. Having said that, the “problem” is that she had children with these men. Not that children are a problem, of course. It’s that once they are there, priorities change and responsibilities thicken. If she were a single woman, three romantic affairs in the space of many years would certainly not be a symptom of something wrong. But in the meantime she has started two families.
So it pains me to tell you that rather than focusing on your sentimental restlessness, you should perhaps deal with the other obligations that surround you. Which are also blessings and which, certainly, could help her overcome the monotony that the couple often contemplates.