Dear Doctor, I am a woman, I often read her column, I do not always share the contents of her answers but I like her calm and elegant tone. However, I must say that the last response to the dentist in love with the escort has put me uncomfortable. I think it would have been right to point out to him that during his youth “whore tour” with friends, the women he met were certainly exploited, and he and his friends took advantage of it. As for “Ada”, above all, the friend of the friend on being crazy, I find it hypocritical, disturbs me. I also think it is preferable not to break a marriage, but I think it is not right to discriminate “ada” for his work, I understand may not like it, but he is still a person, not a lower being. Respect all women means respecting those who prostitute themselves, in my opinion. I hope to have made my contribution and to be able to open a comparison, I renew my estimate.
Flaminia
Dear Flaminia, of course she made its contribution. And thank you for this. In fact, I replied to the dentist by focusing exclusively on the sentimental choice that he intends to undertake and I did not focus at all about the other aspects that the letter raised and which instead are fundamental for the purpose of underlining the respect due to the woman. As for the “Amoroso” advice, I know that I would give GS the same response whether Ada had been an accountant, a professor of philosophy or a managing director. The conclusion to which I arrived is not due to what Ada does to live, as regards what I believe is for the dentist, that is, a way of “running away” from the life that has been chosen and by the responsibilities that took place. The fact that to try to escape from his real existence has chosen a woman who is not incardinated in a “usual dimension”, only encourages this man’s cowardice. He is betraying his family and is deluding a girl who will certainly see a redemption and salvation in him.
Exploring the theme of exploitation here, as she asks me, would be reductive and impossible but it is enough to try to identify with it (which is always the best way to start respecting others) with Ada to understand how it will remain when GS will decide to return to the tracks of his bourgeois life. For him it will have been the “damned” parenthesis to remember all his life. And she will continue with her life …