Dear Dr. Braghieri, I often read her column, also because it allows you to get out of the routine of the (ugly) news and comments a little. In the “requests for help”, you can read a cross -section of human relationships and its answers are always rational and balanced. I am writing to confront her on the topic “love”. In my opinion, what is missing most is education to love. There is a lot of confusion about this feeling. Many exchange it with sex; Others with the “possession”. Few, in my opinion, remember that, if you really want to someone, you should respect it and think about his happiness before his own. At the cost of losing those who love each other. I saw children ruined for the intrusive love of too possessive mothers. We are not talking about the many males who believe that love is a sort of power over their wife or partner. Relationships that go on immersed in lies and hypocrisy. On the other hand, we witness events (in theory) praising peace, in which there is more violence than on a ring. Everyone has a ready answer, a solution in the pocket. Nobody is really what appears. Learning to love, perhaps, would even help to be more sincere (if I really love someone, why do I have to tell him lies?). Perhaps it would also help to learn respect for the other, for freedom, proper and others. Maybe … Well, I always have so many doubts. I conclude by thanking her for your interesting and always polite answers.
Alberto Gianella
I can only agree with her on all Alberto. But I can tell you one thing: I find it so difficult now to teach anything, even the most basic, that I perfectly realize that there may be so much emotional ignorance around.
It is the most complicated thing to pass on and if today (perhaps everyone, at any time he found himself saying “today” giving the time, but I really find that these are more infidi than others) we are damaging even if only to inculcate the rules of being at the table, let alone to give lessons of a completely different tenor. A few days ago, I felt explained by a very smart professor that our boys stopped “imitating us” and borrowing our codes. Is it right?