I confess it, I have never loved sex, physical relationships are very overrated for me. As a girl, the “first time” did not make me hot or cold. I am a 45 -year -old woman, my name is Viviana, I work in the food research sector, in northern Italy. I had amorous stories in my life that went out “for the lack of passion”. The accusation that I felt addressed by men is that I am “asexual”. About five years ago, therefore, I decided to put a stone above and I threw myself to cultivate friendships, both male and female, avoiding sentimental complications, or so. This, to date: for a few months, in fact, I have met a woman of my age, Fosca, very interesting intellectually, a writer with a novel life. After a party, given by a friend of mine on Lake Garda, we was running in the city and, meeting after meeting, a relationship has started, which I would call “particular”, a strong mental understanding, artistic adventures and erotic games. I specify that it had never happened to me before; And for what I know, so also for my partner, even if perhaps in his youth, there was something for her in the women’s college. Arrival to the point: one evening, the young son of Fuca returned home, without warning, and surprised us in the bedroom in the middle of a relationship. The Dinimondo broke out. Now Fosca is very confused and does not want to see me; Everything stopped because of the crisis with her son (however of age). We haven’t heard from weeks and I suffer a lot and I don’t know how to deal with the situation. I ask for your opinion, also a criticism if the case. Of course, I know that there will be those who laugh at me, of us, reading the letter, but ours is true love …
Viviana Z.
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Dear Viviana, I don’t see who (and why) should laugh at you. Being surprised by the children during sexual intercourse is something that we hope will never happen, but that can happen to anyone. I believe that she and Fosca will find yourself with a storm ended. You leave her time to face this and to make her face her son. It would have happened a Dinimondo even if the boy had surprised his mother in the company of a man who is not the father. Here, the things to metabolize are at least a couple … of age or not.
He was born from a traditional relationship and now, after having to accept the separation of the parents, he finds himself having to relocate the feeling from which it was generated in his head. Nothing simple, as it will understand. Give space to both and will see that everything will settle down.