Dear Valeria, F (the medieval knight who courts anachronisticly) is wrong or nothing. I was the absolute monarch of the kingdom of friendship. Excellent if there was a need to be accompanied somewhere, get to pick up when public transport were on strike, talk about their stories and how they did not understand what they were wrong in order not to be able to attract the one in which they were interested. But if I tried to hope for something more they were always very kind. They were with someone, or they had just closed, or they didn’t want stories. Never once they say “I don’t like you because …”. At least I would have known what he didn’t go. Then at thirty -six years I knew a person, volunteer like me in an ambulance, and I married her three years later. Now we are together from nineteen. In the meantime, he has lost his stirrups three times and in those circumstances I turned to not react. I do the doormat because what is admitted for her is not for me, I left the house of my dreams because she risked the exhaustion and made her nervous (now we are in her dream house and continues to be nervous). Dear F, Be yourself and do not compromise. You risk finding yourself at fifty -five years of age, imagining with a free colleague you are attracted to, who perhaps reciprocate you, but you do nothing because you are afraid of staying on foot again. After hungry, even stale bread is good and you don’t want to find yourself hoping again.
Best regards
Max
Dear Max, he made me laugh a lot with “now he is in the house of his dreams and continues to be nervous”, definitely less with his wife who loses his stirrups and she who is there “like a doormat” because it fears to find only other “shoes” who need to clean herself (on her). But holy sky, why is it so ruthless with himself? And why did he convince himself that he could not ask for anything else? And that’s okay, she and her wife have chosen yourself and have been together for many years but the minimum that she can demand is to live a relationship in which her consort is is respected as much.
I stop, please, to feel abusive everywhere and to think of not being able to ask anyone for anything. It occupies her space and face her partner: she makes her understand that she too has conditions to place and that she too, one day, could get tired. Or at least bluffs …