Dear Doctor, I am writing to her because I think others like me live the thirty years like the years of awareness and important choices. I was with many girls and the last one, which I thought I married, turned out to be incompatible with me. I live this middle situation where singles are war residues of other relationships that broke out, like me, moreover, or are too young and impetus between the discovery of oneself and their place in the world. Here, I feel in a post apocalyptic desert where I could benefit only from fleeting extramarital escapades that leave no room for the affection. I don’t know where to look for it. Advice?
Pierluigi
Dear Pierlugi, the thirty years (which today I obviously waited behind voraciously) are the ones who, while I traveled them, I detested more. But I fear it is not something that unites only the two of us, they are the ones who are the “terrible thirty” to borrow an English expression that actually refers to the two years of the children. It is the period in which you have already taken a form but you do not know if it is the right one, from any point of view: sentimental, professional, character … are even those in which you question more from the physical point of view: you are perfectly aware of your defects but you still don’t know how to accept them, or enhance them. Art that has become a strong way in our time: think of Jennifer Lopez’s butt, those of my generation would have closed at home with a back like this. But that pair of jurisdictions mounted on her, who on the right of the truth is a woman of rare beauty, have become one of her strengths and a lot of girls try to emulate her with steps, peanut butter or scalpel. We do not have very skilled perpetrators of the image to build a winning one and millions of fans to extend courage. So it’s up to face these thirty heads down. These are the years to stay in the ring. Of course it would help a crystal sphere in which to see that everything will end well. In the absence of the sphere I can suggest that I do not feel a veteran, it is not yet to allow it to be my friend. But it will be better. And he is not affected to look for the woman of his life because he will arrive, he has already gone close to us once.
Which means that he wants to find it and this is already much more than they have to offer many of his peers or gender colleagues. As for the escapades, if they grant them as long as they are extra but not extramarital. It will arrive more solid wherever you want to go.